#3

It is true you can become disappointed for the right reasons, as well as for the wrong reasons. How do you become disappointed? It all sets in after someone doesn't reach an expected standard, for teenagers  this disappointment is usually derived from their academic performances, choice os friends of activities they choose to partake in, for young adults, your family may see you as a disappointment because of your career choice or relationship decisions - maybe you've chosen the wrong partner (in their opinion), it can also exist in the same said relationship, your partner may not be doing everything you have expected him to. Then,  you can be disappointed with yourselves. Really... who is to say the standards expected are the standards you need to meet? Are standards not set from people's own misconceptions or actuality of their state or standard? What if their "standards" have no moral standing? What if those so called "standards" are beneath all that I can achieve? What if I am more prone to excel in my own way on my own standards? I stand on my opinion the emotional side of this all is to be blamed, that is what pushes one to be truly disappointed, because you care - you hurt- and because you were never expecting that hurt - you're disappointed. A reserved person will always smile through disappointments. Humility enlightens us  that we are all human, and at some point we will make mistakes, and should not hold it against our own.

Self preservation....

Can the act of self preservation be achieved without being considered selfish?
Self preservation is in fact a behavior which ensures the survival of an organism. What triggers this behavior? Fear. Only in the event one is fearful of something they immediately take action to save themselves, do anything necessary to make sure they are safe. Senses are enlightened and you become aware of all protruding forces which may be seen as a threat. It's like you're constantly on this adrenalin rush and always on guard. Another trigger... pain. No one likes pain.... well most people don't, for that percentage who resents the feeling of pain, if you constantly set yourself up in the position to feel such pain and hurt when you know full well you can guard yourself up against all elements of the sort.... wouldn't that make you some sort of masochist? I would conclude and say its just a perfectly human coping method, which also depends on the extremes in which one would take it to. However, self preservation - it makes you human, not selfish....

Small Thoughts

Its interesting how as human beings we tend to get caught up in what we're familiar with and then anything that is outside of that sacred circle is weird...somewhat disturbing, and the idea of venturing away from there is extremely frightening. This exists in any situation, adults stuck in their old ways, choosing of partners when venturing into a new relationship, choosing an outfit to go to "the best event" of the year, eating foods, and the list goes on.... What does this make us immobile? Or does it make us wise? With every action there is a reaction, it can only come out one out of two ways. In the end you can either learn from the mistake or benefit from the change. However, in the end the choice lies only within ourselves....